So I honestly almost couldn’t finish this one because it made me so mad. It was full of cheesy Christian rhetoric written by a guy who married young and never had to deal with any form of dating in the age of dating apps, etc. I can think of nothing more that drives me insane than when someone who doesn’t understand that it’s no longer a thing to just “go out into the world and meet someone” (for the most part) - even in the Christian world - spouts their opinions about how Tinder is the devil and you should just be serving the Lord and that’s where you’ll find your spouse.
I do like his writing style (so maybe I should read his other book and erase this one from my memory) and I think his intentions are good. There are some good metaphors and personal stories that I know had the potential to resonate with me, but overall I felt for judged and condemned for not having the perfect story before potentially entering a marriage that I might block even the good because of the bad. Lusko also uses some poignant stories from the Bible, but surrounded by otherwise harsh and hurtful language about sexual purity (and who you are if you haven’t remained that way) that I think diminish the impact.
He does mention it might be a good idea for those who “start with chapter 8 and then double back for some “hope” - but I think that’s lazy writing and honestly even after the “hope” he offered I was still so torn down it didn’t really shake me out of that. Good intentions aside, I never felt an ounce of redemption in the entirety of this book, even when I know he was trying to offer that to his readers.
I would NEVER recommend this book to anyone with even an ounce of a “past” unless you want to feel guilty, shameful, and unable to hope for a healthy and Christ-hinting marriage. I would much sooner recommend “Not Yet Married” by Marshall Segal. He unpacks the idea of singleness and pride and ego in a way that never once made me feel hopeless. Skip this one, single friends 👋