The One Where Lauren Is Sick.

So, I've been vaguely mentioning how I have been having some health issues this month...and I mean, we all know I'm not a vague person at all.

Straight to the point here - I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes earlier this week. I've known it could happen for a while now, and to be honest, I didn't do much to prevent it. I felt like "surely this won't happen to me" and I figured I was pretty invincible against it. Turns out, it did happen. Also, spoiler alert: not invincible. 

 Real talk: 

I struggled with wanting to share anything about it because if I'm honest, I'm embarrassed. I'm here because of health choices I made in my life. I am genetically predisposed to it, yes. But I also could have been a healthier person and prevented it from getting to this point. And I didn't. There's already always voices that play in my head about my body as someone who is overweight, but now I feel like I have the disease that seals the deal. I don't feel like a victim, I feel like the attacker of my own body.

The dialogue that has been playing in my head goes like this:

Friend- "Oh you are sick?! I'm so sorry! What's wrong?"

Lauren - "I have type 2 diabetes."

Friend - "Ohhhhh...so like, not really sick. Just fat and unhealthy."

I struggled with wanting to share because I hate being the "sick" person. While this is manageable for the most part, there's some side effects and correlating issues I may deal with over time. I also had just  gotten to the point where I was pretty much using oils/natural methods to heal everything (that hippie lyfffeeeee). Now I'll be taking medication daily for the foreseeable future. And these pills are a doozy. Thank God there's no shots for the time being. 

Real talk: 

I struggled with wanting to share because while I know I need to make lots of health/life changes you know, to like stay alive and such,  I also don't want people being critical about what I eat and how much/how little I'm exercising all the time. That's selfish and stupid and terrible, and I should be truly grateful for the people in my life who would push me to make better choices. I know this. It's just Lauren wanting to be able to do/eat whatever she wants, free of judgement. But then I remember that is kiiiiiind of how I got here. So now I start the process of calculating every single thing I eat. Making sure it's not going to push me to a place my body can't handle. I know I'll eventually get over this, but right now when I look at food - there's ZERO joy. All fear. What I used to love so much is now the enemy. I hate that. Food! How could you betray me like this?

So much drama. I know. It's a lot to take in and process, and while normally I love opening up about stuff I'm learning and going through in life with the general internet, I literally wanted to do nothing but hide in a cave by myself all week and share with no people what was going on. With a whole pizza and pint of ice cream to myself (gotta inject some humor in here guys...). But that pesky little voice called authenticity called me out and said: "Lauren if you're going to share the details of your dating life and spiritual life and all other forms of life on the reg, you can't hide something that is now your new norm. Tell the truth." So here we are. I'm telling you all about my dirty little secret.

Up-side. Diabetes is manageable, and in some cases reversible! A friend told me to think of it as a "side-effect" rather than a disease. I can control how I feel and how my body functions by making good choices. Great! Easy, right? Well, yes and no. For those of you who are naturally healthy and eat well ("oh I don't ever eat fast food" a statement to which I promptly EYE ROLL and then shove my Taco Bell in my mouth) and run like 3 miles a day and love it all...I salute you. I also say that isn't me at all. This is all so new to me. I mean, I guess I always had the intention of "losing weight" and "getting healthy" at some point because I wanted to be a smaller human. Now, I have to make those changes because my life depends on it. It sounds so dramatic when I say it like that, but it's kind of true. Heart disease, liver disease, strokes, nerve damage...the list of things I am now so much more prone to is extensive. I can't get to those places. I need to reverse this and stay alive for a really long time.

So now I begin the part b of this life. The time after my diagnosis. The time where I change lots of stuff in my life. 

I didn't post this for pity or really for any other reason than I couldn't keep it to myself much longer. There is something so isolating in health issues, and while I know I'll be dealing with this on my own for a bit...I also know that I have people who love and care about me that would want to know where I'm at.

So there we go.  

I'm here. Lauren. 27. Type 2 diabetic. And that's that.

Gosh, all that emotional honesty was exhausting. I need a snack.

-L

Book Report: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

This was a book I had been wanting to read for quite some time, but just never got around to it. So yes, this book report isn't very timely, but lots of folks I know have also been "meaning to pick this one up!" and haven't...so I thought it was worth a quick review.  

What I liked:

There's nothing that I dislike more than when books gives you vague and unhelpful solutions to the problem it's trying to solve. Marie Kondo gives you step by step instructions to achieve results. 

I kid you not, it took me 2 hours to read. I underlined a lot and wrote down some key points - but for the most part, skimming was fine. I had read lots of reviews saying that because it wasn't written initially in English, it makes for a choppy read...but I didn't experience that. It was just very plain and simple. Of course the real time is spent actually purging and going through stuff, but the actual read is quick and easy. 

Here are some takeaways (consider this your SparkNotes)

1. You have to change your way of thinking before you change your habits. So, just willing yourself to be a better "tidy-er" is not a thing. You have to mentally prepare yourself before you start. Good wisdom for this, also, life. 

2. We should be choosing what we want to keep rather then what we want to get rid of (41). When I first heard about the main premise of holding each item and seeing if it "sparked joy" I'll admit - major eye-rolls. BUT I will say, that when you're looking at stuff with the eyes of being able to keep it because it's wonderful rather than throw away because it's less wonderful the whole purging experience is more pleasant. I was surprised at how few (well, I mean, for me. Let's not get carried away here...I still have a full closet!) things I wanted to really keep. 

3. If you want to be a person who treasures what they have, you need to get rid of the things that have outlived their purpose (paraphrase, pg 61). Damn. So here's the thing. I should have probably prefaced with this. I am a hoarder with certain things. I have LITERALLY 4 WEEKLY PLANNERS THAT I DO NOT EVEN USE. I bought them because they are cute (ok, I bought 3 and 1 was a gift), and I used to be a planner person in school so of course I needed them! But, I've realized that I rarely turn to paper because I have very few assignments that I need to keep track of. I have sadly become someone who uses the calendar on my phone to organize my life. Which is cool. Which means I need to freaking get rid of the planners. Same rule applies to everything else. Shirts (how many grey tees does Lauren need?). Shoes (this is a touchy subject because...SHOES). Etc. 

4. Ok, this one WRECKED me. She mentions that little thing we do of saving every piece of note paper from every conference or seminar or church service or seminary class (ok, I added those two), which strikes right at the heart. I have a file drawer of papers that I have not looked at IN YEARS but for some reason I feel compelled to keep. I kind of ignored her tips when I read through on this one, but as I am writing this, I feel convicted. I need to part with them. She gives a great reason - stating that when we decide to keep this useless (ouch) material, most of the time we don't actually put the learnings into practice. We trick ourselves into thinking that we will put them into practice after we've given the materials another read-through...and then we never do. Pesky. So those gotta go. 

5. I loved this idea: that the things we like don't really change over time. So, putting the house in order is a way to find out what those things are (175). Brilliant. 

6. Tidying is an act of restoring balance in people and possessions (190). I love this. There is nothing better than a clean house. A clean room. Oh, the joy of balance. 

What I didn't like:

I live in a large home with 4 other girls, so while the tips helped me organize my own room and office (at work), I can't really put the method into practice with the rest of my home. When you combine the stuffs of 5 20-something girls...it's going to get a little crazy. So, this isn't much of a critique on the book as much as it was a learning for me. Unless you're the sole inhabitant of your house (what a dream!) or the primary decision maker on organization in your house - you'll have to be OK with only practicing in spaces that are yours. 

I pretty much ignored the section on purging books. I know, bad Lauren. But here's the thing, it's been a lifelong dream of mine to have an in-home library, and I know if I purge books, I'll regret it later. I purge every once and awhile with books I didn't like or know I will 100% never read or pass to a friend...but I can't bring myself to part with many others. I keep them contained to their bookshelves (well, I try. Let's be gracious on that one.), and they aren't piled up everywhere creating a mess. But - if you're a better person than me and don't feel like parting with a good book is like giving away a child, then I'm sure you'd be into this section. 

Who is this book for?

If you are overwhelmed by the amount of STUFF you have in your home/office/life in general...this is a good read for you. It will convict you (which is always good motivation, at least for me) and inspire you to make a change. 

If you feel like you are pretty organized overall, but you have a few spaces that you think could use some tidying up - i.e. office, spare room, kitchen, etc., then this is a good kick in the pants to get those rooms in tip-top shape. 

I would argue that most people (unless you are insanely minimalistic and have nothing in your house) would benefit from reading this little book. 

You can pick up a copy on Amazon. Or, if you're a friend, shoot me a text and I'll lend you my copy! 

LR //